The Problem with “The Other Side”
LinkedIn 09/26
The Problem with “The Other Side”
In complex negotiations, we tend to treat organizations as coherent entities. The customer. The competitor. The government. The investor. The regulator. The consortium. On one side, us. On the other, them. It makes the world manageable, but usually not for very long.
Behind “the government” are ministries, agencies, political levels and individual decision-makers. Behind “the company” are functions, business units and people with different objectives, risks and mandates. Internally, things rarely look much different. The closer we look, the more layers appear.
The problem is not that these people behave irrationally. Quite the opposite. Each person can act perfectly rationally from their own perspective, while collectively creating a negotiation that no longer behaves like a conversation between two coherent parties.
The convenient fiction of “the other side”
“What does the other side actually want?” sounds like a straightforward question. Many negotiation methods and training cases necessarily make it one. On one side there is us, on the other side them. Both have interests, positions, alternatives and a mandate, often already defined as part of the case. That makes perfect sense for teaching. Otherwise, a two-hour exercise would quickly turn into a two-week project.
Reality is less accommodating. Parties are not always as internally consistent as we assume, and in that respect they are often not very different from ourselves. What Engineering considers an acceptable compromise may create a problem for Finance. What one person has already promised may still have to be fought through internally by someone else. A demand that appeared to have disappeared yesterday may return because another actor has entered the discussion whose interests had not previously been considered.
From the outside, this can look contradictory or unpredictable. It may, of course, be deliberate strategy. But there is also a good chance that everyone involved is acting rationally — just not according to the same rationale.
These differences are not only a problem. They can also create room for negotiation. Different interests, priorities and mandates create fault lines, but also potential lines of compromise. Something that appears impossible to resolve with “the other side” may look different once we understand which actors need, tolerate or can prevent which outcomes.
Negotiation architecture cannot eliminate this complexity. It can make it visible and workable. Instead of reducing “the other side” to one set of interests and positions, the team can make different perspectives explicit and develop a richer understanding of who is actually involved, how their interests differ and where dependencies exist.
What changes with AI
This becomes particularly interesting when AI enters the picture. AI is remarkably good at processing complexity. Humans are remarkably good at reducing it early. Unfortunately, AI tends to believe us.
We write in a prompt, “The other side is demanding …”, and AI produces an impressively articulated proposal for how we should respond and what we might offer next. AI has answered our question, and because the answer sounds convincing, we may even feel more confident about our original interpretation. But the question already contained two assumptions: there is one party, and it has one position.
The problem is therefore not necessarily the quality of AI reasoning. We may have simplified the object it is reasoning about before the reasoning even begins.
AI becomes more interesting when it can work with a richer representation of the situation: different actors, interests, mandates, relationships, statements and assumptions. It can then examine whether our observations and assumptions fit together. Why does Finance support a proposal if it creates a risk that Engineering rejects elsewhere? Who would have to change their position for a particular compromise to become possible? Which actors place different emphasis on elements of the position being presented? Where does our strategy depend on a single unverified assumption?
Humans and organizations have always had to reduce complexity in order to remain capable of acting. Abstraction is a prerequisite for decision-making, but abstraction also discards information. Until recently, retaining substantially more detail came at a cost: somebody had to collect it, structure it, keep it current and reason across it.
AI changes that trade-off. Its advantage may therefore not initially be that it gives us a better answer to the same question. It allows us to keep a more complex question open for longer.
We can retain more actors, more perspectives and more contradictory information explicitly while still reasoning about them systematically. Simplification will still be necessary eventually. The important difference is that it does not have to happen quite so early.
And that may be one of the more consequential changes AI brings to complex negotiations: not better answers after we have simplified the problem, but greater freedom to decide when and how much we simplify it in the first place.